Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Family ~ Friends and Thanksgiving!

We redecorated our living room this past week and there is one thing we didn't change and that is the horrible air intake at eye level in one of the main walls of the house. It is on the wall that divides the living room and the dining room. UGH! Needless to say we searched high and low for something that would work as both an air intake vent and a decoration. After much searching I saw something that said "Family." A voice inside of me said, "let Steve find Family - he will." I second guessed the voice and began to design something else. Suddenly Steve came walking up with a sign that said, "Family" I was so shocked I couldn't even react. At first he thought I didn't like it but, in actuality I loved it. The voice was right!


Today Steve hung the wall decor and it was then that I saw it - "ami"; "friend" right smack dab in the middle of the word family. On one side of the wall it is clearly "Family" but on the other side through the intake space were the highlighted letters "a" "m" and "i." "Ami" - french for friend. So, two French names come together - Rapier, Champagne and Ami.




When I first met Steve all I really wanted was a friend. Someone to walk with, talk with, sing with, enjoy the world with. Never did I imagine that the day would come when he would identify me as family or I call him family. I thought it took a marriage license and a ring to mean family. Family is what you make of it and so are friendships. But, when you can have both family and friends in one relationship then you are indeed a blessed individual! I look at my family members as friends and there are some very special friends who are indeed my family.

Happy Thanksgiving! Again, have fun and just look at in how many languages friend is in the center of family. God Bless!

Monday, November 9, 2015

Walk In My Shoes = Empathy

There is an old wisdom that paraphrased says: “You cannot really understand another person's experience until you've walked a mile in their shoes."

What this hearkens to is empathy. What is difficult about empathy, compassion, etc., is that it is in the end a two way street. If at anytime you believe your shoes are more important than anyone else's, that is when there is a breach in the empathetic circle of understanding. That is when their is chaos. That is when their is a break. That is when people's understanding of the world changes. To continue to assume that one's path is more difficult than another's, is to abandon empathy and move towards a conditional expectation, and a feeling of failure.